I fell in love with Christian Grey.
Not with the way he persuaded Anastasia to agree being his submissive or having a titillating fuck instead of making love, but his virtue as a perfect lover despite of being assaulted in his young age by an abusive nymphomaniac.
i. Intelligence. He is the kind of man who’s admirable for being calm in all situations because he always knows what to do; he absolutely knows all the different strategies in his profession. And he doesn’t allow any of his rivals to win over something he badly desires; he doesn’t stop until he doesn’t reach his goal yet and nobody would stop him from getting his goals. And as lover, I fall in love with a man,because of his intelligence. I may get attracted with his looks, but I will fall for his intelligence because personality and mindset will always be important for me. Along side with that, intelligent people knows exactly what they want, and once they want something, they would strive hard for it. And when it comes to courtship, they do a lot better because they merge intelligence and determination, where in they could think of something romantic like a candle light dinner plus a determination where in they would personally do it. And when they have rivals, they would add more of determination, to exclude others as they reached their goals.
ii. Pride. He is the kind of man who forgets about his pride when it comes to Anastasia; he doesn’t care if he would cry in front of Anastasia just to show her his sincerity or if he would kneel in front of Anastasia to plead her not to leave him just to show her his truthfulness. And as a lover, I fall in love with a man, who knows no pride when it comes to love. Because I am the kind of woman who remembers my pride when I am already mad, and you are at fault. I wouldn’t mind crashing all the memories we had once I got exhausted with pain you brought. But at the same time, as I hysterically tell you I want to break up with you, I would still expect you to plead me not to leave, I want to see your emotions through tears and that’s when I would realize if you are really sincere or not. In short, I just want a man who would forget about his pride when I am exploding my anger because I am a woman full of pride when hurt.
iii. Loving.He is the kind of man who does everything for Anastasia, he constrain things for the safety of Anastasia but when Anastasia pleads, he would allow it because he loves her and losing an argument’s better than losing her. He is the kind of man who would be consistent with his efforts, either in communication or on presents, because it is his own way of showing his love for Anastasia. And as a lover, I fall in love with a man, who loves me, because in every relationship, love is the primary requirement for us to build a harmonious relationship. Love will always bind us together despite the hardships we would encounter. Love will always make us feel the initiative to put and appreciate effort on the relationship. Love will always make us understand the things that seem like a hasty decision. Love will always make us find one reason trust each other even though we were given a hundred of reasons not to. Love will make our relationship reach neither forever nor infinity and beyond.